Who makes a difference in What is Remembered, and When that happens, our Why can be answered.
Fun little rhymes aside, identifying others who were a part of the event you are “reimagining” can make a huge difference in the “What”and “Why” of what really happened.
Look at your previous chart from Part 2. Then, take a highlighter and highlight anything living (or that once was alive) that might have a perspective.
Choose one of these highlighted relationships to start with. Take your situation, and draw a perspective box with their name in. Perspective boxes are just squares with your name in the middle and lines drawn through the middle. (This is next section-and this paragraph) is nearly word for word from the Part 2 post.
Next, begin listing out Distinctions. If you are familiar with DSRP charting, you can use that system to do this. If you are not familiar, a regular list with the word “Distinctions” next to it will do.
Distinctions are things that are sensory: what did they see? Hear? Taste? Smell? Feel?
Next, repeat that step with Systems. A system includes parts and a whole. For instance, if your dilemma involved your school lunch period, you may list the parts of the lunch experience (food, friends, monitors, table, etc.) and then the whole would be that experience or situation. The other individual’s systems might be different from yours; consider what they may have experienced being a part of something different from yourself.
Chances are, there are several systems at play in your scenario from your perspective. Emotions are a system. Experiences as a whole are a system. The location can be a system. This can go on and on. Try breaking it down as much as is useful. Maybe the lunchroom as a whole should be broken down, but you don’t need every individual piece of the table. Maybe you do because it is imperative to the situation. Only you can decide what’s valuable here. There is no right answer.
Follow up your systems review with Relationships. Again, break this into what relationship were involved, impacted or relevant to the situation you are creating an alternate ending for. Sometimes, these relationships involve things or people that are not there at the time of the event. Sometimes it’s all inanimate objects. Using their perspective, identify what relationships created or impacted the ending that happened.The other individual’s relationships might also be different from yours; consider what they may have experienced being a part of something different from yourself.
Realistically, identifying the situation using DSRP from someone else’s view point (perspective!) will help you to identify what you think happened.
This is arguably the largest,and most difficult step of this process. It should be repeated for as many as all and as few as one other perspectives from your own. I advise you to ask the other people (if you can) about what they remember; it might surprise you! This step is designed to get you closer to what really happened during that memory and better enable you to identify possibilities for alternative endings.
Good luck and contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org with any questions. I’m here to help!